Real Friends

I am thankful for my real friends.  I know you all probably have at least one of your own.  He or she is that friend who loves you day in and day out no matter what.  You can share all of your secrets with them, laugh until you cry, dance with them like no one is watching, cry the ugly cry, tell the truth, never wear a game face, count on them to be there before you ask …  You get the picture. 

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

from The Velveteen Rabbit

I am so very thankful for my real friends.  If this made you think of someone, drop them a note or give them a call.  Real friends are a treasure.

Blog Title

I have been thinking about the title of this blog lately.  I have also been thinking about a lot of things I would like to say out loud, but have refrained from doing so.  Well, I just can’t keep some of these things to myself anymore, so here it goes …

  • You should not tell a pregnant woman she is getting fat.  She might fire back with a question about when your baby is due and that would be very awkward since you are indeed fat, not pregnant.
  • You should not ask a pregnant woman personal questions that are absolutely none of your business!  Examples of these types of questions would be “do you plan to breastfeed?” and “how was your trip to the doctor?  anything going on down there?”  Seriously folks – none of your business!
  • Women who have never been pregnant should not comment daily about how pregnant someone looks from day to day.  An example “I can tell you are starting to look pregnant now.  Before I wasn’t even sure you were pregnant.”  Trust me, you do not have to “look” pregnant to be pregnant.  Is there a universal pregnancy “look”?
  • When you ask me how I feel or how I am doing, please don’t look so disappointed when you hear I am fine.  I really am fine.  I’m not going to launch into long stories and give you details for you to share with people I don’t know about a pregnant woman you know.
  • Was it a mistake?  Was this a surprise? 

This is not to say I have not had some awesome love and support from people – but that is another topic.

Finally, (well finally for this entry anyway) I have heard a couple of things that I did not find offensive.  One man – a brand new Father – said “You look great.  Your baby is really growing, I know that’s exciting”.   Another man – (a man in his 70s) asked about my other children.  When I told him I had a 13 year old, he said “Long time between martinis”.  Cracked me up!